When life gets busy, I tend to ignore some of the things I enjoy doing most. At the beginning of the year, I set goals to help me avoid the inevitable pull of Bravo TV and a nice bottle of wine ($11.99/bottle makes it ‘nice’, right?) These goals include the things I enjoy, that make me feel good and accomplished when I complete them, including writing blog posts, reading new books, and knitting the patchwork blanket that I started in 2013 (2012?) The first few months of the year went well, and then…not so much. I’d like to say that it’s because I don’t have enough time, but that’s not the case. I have the same amount of time as everyone else, but I’m choosing to use my time in a way that isn’t necessarily in line with my personal goals. This isn’t to say that I’m a couch potato. I’ve achieved several of my goals in the past few years by networking, taking chances, and doing some good ol’ hard work. That being said, when every other blog post begins with, “So I haven’t written on here in a while…,” that’s not a good sign.
Whenever I find myself getting to the point where I feel stuck, or uninspired, or lazy, I’m reminded of an individual profiled in Laura Vanderkam’s book 168 Hours: You Have More Time Than You Think. The book makes the obvious, yet often forgotten point that we all have 168 hours in a week–plenty of time to do the things we love, the things that will help us reach our goals, and the necessities of life that we don’t love so much (dirty dishes, I’m looking at you). The profile that always sticks in my mind is that of Theresa Daytner, a successful construction company owner and mom of six who identified her priorities and used them to plan her life–time spent working/achieving goals, time with her kids, time doing the necessities, and time re-charging. Daytner’s most profound statement?
“Everything that I do, every minute I spend is my choice. […]. If I’m not spending it wisely, I fix it […].”
I love this. At no point does she claim that she’s got it down. Instead, she recognizes her very human tendency to get off target, and simply re-orients herself and her time.
I bring up the concept of prioritizing and goal-setting because it reminds me of my purpose in creating this blog in the first place. I didn’t intend for it to just be an outlet for the times when I felt like writing (although there’s nothing wrong with that…if that’s your purpose for having a blog, then by all means, get it out, girl). I wanted to provide support, inspiration and tips for those trying to get out of debt. I think the mission of the blog has somewhat changed, which could explain my lack of writing, so I’m going to pull together a new mission statement to get it back on track. I’ll share the mission statement in my next post, which I’ll write this week. I might even do it today. Sorry, Bravo TV and wine bottle.